It’s Okay To Be Single In Your 20’s

As you get older you get the same questions ‘have you got a boyfriend yet?’, ‘are you still single?’ or ‘when are you going to settle down?’ The best thing is brushing off these questions (as they get more boring every time somebody asks!) and thinking about why you love being single!


Learn to love yourslef

If you can’t love yourself then how can you expect anybody else to love you? The one thing about being single is you get a lot of time to yourself, this gives you time to reflect on yourself. When you start to reflect on yourself you will find that your confidence will grow, you will know the type of person that you are and what kind of people you want in your life. This makes it easier when you do decide to settle down as you will know the type of person you want in your life and the type of person you want to share yourself with!

Career comes first

Looking back at some of the people I went to school with, they were married and had two kids by they age of 22. Most of these girls didn’t even make it to college or university and didn’t have a chance to start their career. One thing about being single, again is focusing on yourself, you get to climb your career ladder and getting yourself settled before adding a partner into the equation. I am not saying that people in relationships cannot do this, some lucky people get the partner who helps them to strive but some people aren’t that lucky!

You get as many male/female friends as you like

When I was younger and in a relationship, I felt like I couldn’t hang around with a lot of my male friends. Whereas when you are single, you don’t have to worry about your partner being jealous or having those trust issues. You can hang out with who you please and not worry about what other people think or any rumors that are going to be flying around.

The weekends are yours

Don’t fancy going out? Fancy sitting at home looking like a sloth whilst eating your body weight in junk food? You can do this whenever you please without having to be judged! You can keep your diary clear and not having to worry about seeing anybody or making the effort to dress yourself up!

You can experiment

Being single means you can talk to who you like, date who you like and if you want sleep with who you like (if your into that kind of thing). This gives you a chance to experiment and see what it is you like, what kind of person you want in your life or even just having fun until you find the moment you are ready to stop and settle down. Being single gives you the opportunity to do all the things you wouldn’t be able to do whilst in a relationship.

Being in control of your own life

Being single gives you full control. You can do as you please, when you please. If you want to just sit in front of the television and eat junk, you can! If you want to go out shopping and spend all your money, you can! If you want to book a plane ticket and go travelling for six months, then you can! You don’t have to discuss your discussions with  your partner, you don’t have to get somebody else opinion or approval you can just do it!


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  • Reply Kirsty

    Great post! I agree with everything and I’m starting to actually believe all of this too ^^ x

    January 2, 2017 at 3:10 pm
  • Reply Melly

    Love this post! People act like being single is a bad thing. Relationships are great but I’m so glad I’ve had this time to selfishly grow and learn and explore! xx

    January 3, 2017 at 2:17 pm
  • Reply Rosa

    Love this post, I love being single – I just don’t feel like I’m in a position to make a commitment to a relationship at the moment.

    January 3, 2017 at 7:33 pm
  • Reply Mike

    I agree! I’ve learnt a lot about myself now I’m single. It’s not all great, but hey, it’s the journey right! Plus not sharing popcorn is ace! Haha

    My friendships have changed a lot too.

    January 11, 2017 at 7:22 pm
  • Reply Lisa Smyth

    I’ve been in a relationship since I was 19 and am very much in love although sometimes posts like this make me feel like I’m missing out haha! Also I haven’t found my relationship getting in the way of my career if anything it has helped me push myself and given me confidence in the things I want to do due to his love and support. I’d much prefer a good quality lifestyle than be completely career focused but that’s just me!xx

    January 18, 2017 at 4:58 pm
  • Reply Emma

    Great post, I’ve had the dreaded ‘oh god I’m single, what if I don’t meet anyone?’ panic of late and this brought me right back down to a sensible level! x

    January 30, 2017 at 2:41 pm
  • Reply Siobhan

    I needed to read this today, I keep overthinking singledom and convincing myself that I’ll end up alone hahaha! Definitely puts things into perspective and makes me realise how much I love being single right now xxx

    June 6, 2017 at 8:01 pm
  • Reply Girl In Gamba

    I totally feel the career coming first! I think I do want a relationship, but I like being single as well. I don’t feel the need to rush into anything because honestly, I have enough on my plate as it is! Really loved this post!

    September 25, 2017 at 7:19 pm
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