So on Monday the 2nd of October I turned 24. It was yet again another birthday that I did not want, not because I am scared of getting old but I do not feel ready to grow up. As a child you believe that when people turn 20 they are instantly adults, but that is a lie. I am not 24 years old and still do not feel like I can call myself an ‘adult’. Why? Because I am not mentally mature enough to say that I can do the adult life.
So, I can happily say that I get up every morning, drink coffee and go to work. If I am right, I believe that classes me as an adult, does it not? In all honesty, this is the most adult my life gets. I still struggle at changing my own bed sheets every week, I still do not know how to cook a decent meal and I still do not know how to sort my clothes into ‘colours’ before putting them in the wash.So why do I need to be an adult? We are expected by the age of 14 to make our choices of what subjects we are going to complete for our GCSE’s. This means that by the age of 14 we are expecting children to know what career path they are choosing and what subjects they are going to complete to get there. This then means that before their GCSE’s are over, they need to decided whether they are going to carry on study at school by joining sixth form or whether they are going to drift away from school and join college. So how do you expect a child, who is not ‘mature’ enough to vote on who they want to run their country, decide what they want to do for the rest of their lives, when at the age of 24 I still do not know what path I want to follow?
I still here the same old thing every day, ‘when are you going to settle down?’ ‘what age are you finally going to have children?’ or ‘are you going to do this for the rest of your life?’. Do I really want to put a time stamp on things, I swear their are a lot of high profile celebrities who didn’t settle down until after they reached there mid-thirties and some who didn’t have their first child until they reached their forties. So why am I expected at the age of 24 to settle down?
At the moment, all I want to do with my life is live it. I want to be able to roll out of bed whenever I want. I want to be able to have days where I can just make plans at the spurge of the moment. I want to be able to act like a complete idiot and not have to worry that it is the inappropriate thing to do at my age. There will be a time where events happen in my life and I will have to stop and make that decision of becoming a mature adult and making sure that I am the sensible one and put things on hold and make sure I have my priorities set out right. But at this moment in time, I do not need to do this. I am not hurting anybody by not ‘adulting’ and I am not hurting anybody by not settling down.
So tell me, do we really think a timeline of when we need to suddenly just stop and because this mature person?