Letter To My Ex….

I have already wrote a letter to my teenage self and a letter to current teens  and found that these went down quite well. Quite recently I had a discussion with somebody about our ‘first loves’ and I found that people were quite negative about their exes and found that I didn’t really have anything negative to say. I thought I would express my opinion on the blog and through this ‘letter’ to my ex.


Dear Ex,

I don’t actually know why I am writing this letter, we have not been together since we were sixteen. We have both been in relationships in the past seven years, yet when people talk about exes you are the first that comes into mind. You are the only one I ever felt that ‘connection’ with, you are the only one that made me feel like I knew what ‘love’ was. I don’t know if it was because we were both young and naive but sometimes these things just need to be said.

First I want to let you know that I never hated you after our break-up, to be honest I don’t think there was ever a time I did hate you. I loved you, you were my ‘first love’ as they call it. You were part of my life for two years and when you’re a teenager in school, that feels like forever! You wasn’t just my boyfriend but you were my best friend throughout those times and I think that is what I hated most after our break up, I had lost my best friend.

When we broke up it may have seemed like I hated you but that was not the case. All I wanted was to know where it all went wrong, when did you feel like ending it? Was there a time where the relationship was one sided and only I was happy and you just wanted it to be over? The break up didn’t seem to shock me but also everybody around and getting over you was hard. Getting over you when all you heard was ‘you were the forever couple’ ‘but you two were never meant to break up’ ‘you two were the perfect couple’ from everybody at school was tough!

After a discussion with a friend recently, I decided that I wanted to say thank you for not being a ‘typical ex’. Most girls you talk to these days hate their exes and claim that all males are the same, that they are all after one thing (yes I mean sex) or are just players that never really cared. Yet, when I look back I do not feel like you were one of these ‘typical exes’, there was never a time I thought you were with me because all you wanted was sex, there was never a time where I thought you did not care about what I had to say or didn’t care about how I was feeling. For this, I want to say thank you. Apart from you I have had some ‘typical exes’, I have had an ex who cheated and an ex who decided he preferred men over women (maybe not so typical). Yet, when I look back I never had a reason to call you typical and I never had a reason to hate you

I think things would have been easier if you decided to be a ‘typical male’ towards the end of our relationship, it would have been easier if you were texting girls behind my back, it would have been easier if you cheated. At least if you did these things I would have a reason to hate you and want to forget about everything. Yet, there are still times I watch certain movies or hear certain songs and smile at the memories we had and wonder what ever did happen?

So one last time, thank you. Thank you for being the greatest ‘first’ and thank you for being the greatest ‘memory’ throughout my teenage years.


Much love,




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  • Reply Corinne & Kirsty

    This is a beautiful letter and so relatable. Although breaking up with my ex broke my heart, I never hated him for that. It made sense that we broke up and he did nothing wrong. I don’t hold any grudge against him. I haven’t seen him in a while for geographic reason but if I was too I’d probably be really happy to! xx corinne

    May 21, 2017 at 7:04 pm
  • Reply courtney

    I related to this so deeply its so nice to see someone being so honest about important times in their life even though its hard! i wrote a similar post i think thats why i relate so much

    May 21, 2017 at 7:08 pm
  • Reply Chelsea Pope

    This is a lovely post, very personal, and Im so glad that some people have exs that aren’t typical like my ex, it’s lovely to see a very grown up way about this, I wish my previous relationship ended without so much hate and hurt xx

    May 21, 2017 at 7:08 pm
  • Reply sami

    Wow, this was so beautiful to read because you worded it so beautifully. It was very touching in a way too and so mature. Xx

    May 21, 2017 at 7:12 pm
  • Reply Eleanor May

    This is such a beautifully written letter. It’s great that you’re able to express your emotions so well.

    May 21, 2017 at 7:21 pm
  • Reply Rachel

    I never really come across posts like this so it was really nice to read! Sometimes it’s nice to read personal posts rather than the usual beauty reviews etc (as much as I love reading them on people’s blogs!) and it’s reminded me that I can be open when it comes to blog posts! X

    May 21, 2017 at 7:27 pm
  • Reply Alice

    Love this post! Although the break-up was hard at the time it’s great that you can look back on it now and remember the great time you had. I think it’s great to experience the classic “first love” in your teens as it sets you up well for later life. And yeah I agree with you, in a way it would be easier if he had cheated as hating him could help you get over him, but in the long run it’s good that you can remember the relationship as a positive experience and maybe still be mates now!

    May 21, 2017 at 7:37 pm
  • Reply Jamie

    Lovely letter 😍 Not many people would be able to write a letter like this to their ex. X

    May 23, 2017 at 11:12 am
  • Reply Freya Meadows

    This is such a lovely, honest, heartfelt post. I think its so important to recognise the good times and the magic of first loves x

    May 31, 2017 at 1:41 pm
  • Reply Mara Zota

    OMG! This is exactly how I feel about my first love. It was in highschool too and we were together 3 years. And you were so right, everyone in school couldn’t get over the fact that we were over. And that hurt because I always heard the things I knew, like “you were perfect” and “he loved you so much” etc. Apart from that, there were this “bitches” who came to and were “ooo, I am so sorry” but had a big smile on their face and then went to “comfort” him. But he was never mean to me or like my other exes, that made everything a revenge and made the good memories fade and full with hate.

    June 3, 2017 at 6:08 pm
  • Reply J | Beauty's Expert Amateur

    Beautifully written. Certainly made me do a little thinking of my own. I hope your ex was able to read this and remember you for all the good times you had when you were together. You go girl! x

    August 25, 2017 at 10:43 am
    • Reply Abbie

      thank you lovely!xx

      August 25, 2017 at 5:27 pm

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