Letter To My Sister…

A lot of people who know me, know that I am constantly moaning about my sister and she is constantly moaning about me. Despite this, my sister and I have become loser as we have become older and there are a lot of things that she has taught me over the years and I decided to put it in a letter.

Dear Big Sis,

I want to say thank you, as much as I moan about you and tell you I hate you, you have taught me then anybody else every has.

It never mattered who I brought home, friend or boyfriend, my sister always had something negative to say about them. I used to hate you for it! But as I got older I realised that you were doing this for my benefit and not actually for the fun of it. Growing up, there has only been a handful of my friends that you actually liked and only one boyfriend that you would actually associate yourself with. It turned out that you were only doing these things because you cared about me, you didn’t think that they were good enough, you wanted somebody she could trust. You have always been good at reading people, something I have never been good at, and you would always find a reason to not like a person and a reason why I deserved better people in my life. I hate to admit it but 99% of the time you was right!

Growing up, I always thought that I was second best – no matter what I was doing or who I was with! But you would always make sure that I was involved and that I would be first. You used to tell me that I should put myself first, something I have never been very good at doing. As I have got older, I have understood why you wanted me to do this and have tried so much harder to put myself first and look after myself before people who wouldn’t put me first!

You are one of the most motivated people I have ever met, in a way it is kind of annoying! Whatever you want to do, you find a way to do it. You pushe me to do things that I never expected myself to do. You was the person who encourage me to join university whilst also working. You was the person who lifted the weights up in the gym without me knowing to prove my body could take it. You were the person who taught me that I could do whatever job I wanted if I worked for it. You are the reason I am doing the things I am doing on a daily basis!

Whilst telling me to work for what I want and not to give up on my dreams, you were also the person that told me that I had to have fun whilst doing these things. Whatever you do, you do with a smile. You taught me that it doesn’t have to be all work, it can be all play if you are doing something that you love. This is how you have your fun and if you don’t find everyday fun then your not doing what you love and change what you are doing!

I have to admit I am a very laid back person and couldn’t actually name you a time where I have been stressed out. This is due to that annoying thing I call you, my big sister. I have seen you when taking your GCSE’s, I’ve seen you when you dropped out of sixth form after one year, in a job where you wasn’t earning a lot of money, I’ve seen you when she has been out of work and had bills to pay, yet I have never seen you stressed. You have shown me that if something is meant to be then it will be. Most importantly, you have taught me that I am only human and if something doesn’t get done then it doesn’t get done, don’t stress over it!

The most important lesson you have ever taught me, is to trust! You taught me to trust you and showed me that no matter what you will always be there. Whether we hate each other at that moment in time or whether we haven’t had a good conversation in weeks, you have helped make me the person I am today and have been my inspiration for most of my life! I hate to admit it but I am thankful for you, my sister, and would not change you for the world (well, maybe a little).

Much love,



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  • Reply Emily

    This is such a lovely post – I’ve got an older and younger sister and I find that even though the three of us can fight, we also learn from each other and get along so well. My mum has also said to us ‘friends may come and go, but sisters are there forever’ – I think that’s the best thing about having a sister, they’re always there! It’s so good that you have this relationship with your sis and I’m sure she’d love to hear all of this!
    Emily xx

    May 27, 2017 at 6:58 pm
  • Reply Corinne & Kirsty

    This is such a lovely post and a beautiful letter! I don’t have a big sister but I have a little sister. I am not sure I taught anything valuable but I know that I was for long a model ahah! xx corinne

    May 31, 2017 at 7:04 pm
  • Reply Lola

    That is so sweet and you shouldnt hate to admit it. Your siblings are going to be the people that will understand you the most and what you been through throughout your life. Treasure it! X
    Lola Mia //

    May 31, 2017 at 7:10 pm
  • Reply Robyn

    Awwh this is such a lovely post! I feel the same way about my older sister!
    Robyn //

    May 31, 2017 at 7:14 pm
  • Reply Terri

    Aw this is such a cute post! I wish I had a sister!

    Terri /

    May 31, 2017 at 7:14 pm
  • Reply Hels

    This is lovely. I have a younger sister (I’m the oldest) – I wonder what she would write to me! Love the photos, it’s so nice seeing old family photos!
    Hels xx

    May 31, 2017 at 7:23 pm
  • Reply Caitlin Steele

    This was such a beautiful post. I think it’s something a lot of people can relate to. A sister bond is something really special, complicated but special. Loved this.

    May 31, 2017 at 7:38 pm
  • Reply Natasha

    Aww this is lovely. I don’t have a sister, but I have 2 brothers and we fought like cat & dog growing up. Now we’re all grown up we get on so well and we’re there for each other no matter what.

    May 31, 2017 at 7:50 pm
  • Reply Lauren - Explore a Corner

    Lovely post. I too have an older sister so can definitely identify with some of the things in this post. I’m also an older sister to two brothers so wonder what they might write in a letter to me…

    May 31, 2017 at 7:54 pm
  • Reply Lexie

    This is such a beautiful letter! So many people don’t realize what a blessing siblings are! Much love to you both

    May 31, 2017 at 8:23 pm
  • Reply The Sunday Mode

    This is so sweet and it’s so nice that you’ve learnt so much from your sister! My older sister and I are so hot and cold when it comes to getting along but hopefully it’ll get better as the years go by eh?

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

    June 5, 2017 at 11:29 am
  • Reply EddieWKH

    This is so touching and lovely. I don’t have sister but I have 2 elder brothers. They have given me a lot and now I should write a letter to them too haha, wish you and your sister all the best!

    June 25, 2017 at 4:10 pm
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