It’s weird to think that 10-15 years ago I used to look at adults and dream about being one myself. I had my life planned out, to be married by the age of 22 and have two kids by the time I was 25. I used to think that I would have my life sorted and I would be a mature adult by the time I was 20. Yet, now even at the age of 23 I do not put myself in the ‘adult’ category and I do not think of myself as mature.
Even now, I wonder what age will I find ‘the one’ what age will I be when I walk down the aisle and what age will I be when I have my first child? But then I also wonder, will I ever marry and will I ever have children?
Do we really want to fit the norm of working a 9-5 job, getting married and then saying at home with the kids? Or do we do it because we feel like we have to? Even now at the age of 23, I still don’t know what I want to do for the rest of my life, I do not know who the person I am going to fall deeply in love will be but yet I feel like I should. I feel like people here my age and expect me to be working the job I will be doing for the rest of my life until I retire. I feel like people judge me because I am single and I’m currently not bothered if I am still single in a years time.
Do we really need to plan out our lives like it is some kind of assignment that you are going to pass or fail? I hate when people expect me to live my life in a certain order or a certain way, it makes me want to do the complete opposite. Why should we be told how to live our lives or what order we need to complete it in?
Everybody tends to judge people for acting a certain way, for going out and partying. If they want to do that why shouldn’t they? If that is what makes them happy why can they not do it? Why are females not allowed to go out and find somebody to take home with them and be judged as being a ‘slut’ or ‘whore’. Yet, a lad goes out and gets praised by all his friends for adding another notch to his bed post? I’m not saying that this is what people should go and do and I’m not saying this is what I go out and do, but if people do who are we to judge?
Just the same, why are people judged for spending their weekends at home reading or watching television? It seems that these get judged more than people spending their weekends getting drunk. If their happy time is sitting on the sofa with a nice cuppa and good old fashioned novel, who are we to stop them from doing this?
I don’t actually understand why we are all so judgemental. It doesn’t matter how much you say you are not, as soon as you see somebody you make a judgement, from the way they are dressed to the way they carry themselves across the room. We cannot help but judge people and even though we say you should get to know somebody before making a judgement, we don’t!
This is why, we live in the type of world we do, people are judged from the way they are dressed, from the amount of money in their bank, from the religion they follow, from the type of music they listen to and from every other type of way you can think of. When are we going to start living in a less judgemental world where we do not need to follow the norm, where do not have to live our lives a certain way or in a certain order.
Maybe one day this will change and I’m hoping that day will come soon!